Conversations With a 4 Year Old

From the time my 4 and 1/2 year old boy wakes up until he falls asleep, he asks questions. If he’s not asking questions, he’s carrying on conversations with anyone who will listen. It’s amazing to see his mind at work, but I’ll admit that I don’t have the answer as often as I’d like.

In just one day, I had all of these conversations with Lucas.

Where is heaven? Is heaven higher than outer space? How do we get to heaven? Is it in one of the clouds? I don’t really know where heaven is, but I like to imagine it’s up high in the sky. 

Do kids live in heaven? Are there mommies and daddies in heaven? Break my heart, dear child. Yes, there are kids and mommies and daddies there, but that’s not a sad thing! That’s a happy thing! They get to live with Jesus! Isn’t that wonderful! I hope he didn’t see my tears.

Will I go to heaven? Will you be in heaven with me? Heartbreaking. I sure hope so, sweetheart. 

Did God make houses? Well, sort of. He made the trees, which we turn into wood to build houses. And he made people who build the houses. So yes, God built houses. Sort of. 

How will the baby in your belly get out? Will he come out through your mouth? Or your belly button? Anyone want to have the facts of life talk with my four year old? Lucas, I will ask the doctor at my next visit and let you know what she says. He hasn’t asked again.

Why won’t you let me have marshmallows? Are there too many ingredients in them? This my friends, left me laughing hysterically in the baking aisle at Kroger. Kids don’t miss anything do they? I couldn’t even answer him I was laughing so hard.

Why isn’t our backyard a water park? We forgot to include that in the package when we were building the house. Sorry, kid. 

When I’m 8, how old will Caroline be? Caroline will be 6. You are two years older than her. You will always be two years older than her. 

When I’m 12, how old will Caroline be? Caroline will be 10. You are two years older than her. You will always be two years older than her. 

When Caroline is 5, how old will I be? Seriously? 

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When I’m as big as Hunter (his older cousin), will I be as tall as he is? Doubt it kiddo, Hunter’s a giant.

When will I be a grown up like you and daddy? Don’t rush your life away, child.

But I can’t wait to be big!Yes, but I want you to take your sweet time growing up. The older you get, the older I get.

How old are you, mommy? I’m 30 years old.

Wow! That’s a lot! Gee, thanks.

On my next birthday, I want a superhero party. Okay, Lucas. But your birthday is in November. There are lots of people in our family with birthdays before yours.

Okay, but on my next birthday, how old will Caroline be? Kiddo, give mama a break!

A few hours later, I overheard him talking. This isn’t uncommon as he has a big imagination and one imaginary friend named “My fella.” Don’t ask.

Lucas, who are you talking to? Are you talking to your fella?

Nope. My fella moved away to Indiana. I was just talking to myself.

But, mommy? I think I want one of those games that you can play on your T.V. for my birthday, okay? Lucas? What did I say about your birthday? From now on, I don’t want to hear about your birthday again until you are in the Butterfly room at school in September.

Got it.

Mom? When I’m 30 like you are, how old will Caroline be?

That my friends is just one day with my four year old. He keeps me laughing. He keeps me thinking. He keeps me crying. And yes, he drives me crazy sometimes. But I just love his curious little mind!

Can you relate?

Life happens when we converse with a 4 year old!

Celebrations

As I mentioned earlier, Caroline turned 2 years old on Monday. We had a special dinner a few weeks ago to celebrate with family. The dinner I served was real food friendly for the most part- spaghetti and meatballs, salad, fruit, and homemade rolls.

But the cake? The cake was a sugary, artificially flavored, artificially dyed tower of goodness. You only turn 2 once, afterall! My mother-in-law was kind enough to get the cake for us. Her boss’s wife makes cakes and she really wanted to do this cake for us! It was bigger than we expected, but my sweet Caroline loved it!

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It was a lovely, low-key celebration. My heart has truly been calling me to “simplify” these days, and I’m really glad I listened.

We still wanted to do something special for her on her actual birthday, though. When she woke up that morning, I immediately pulled her out of her crib and sang “Happy Birthday” to her. She loved it! She’s been saying “Happy Day to me, Happy Day, Nine-Nine” for several days. So cute!

After breakfast, we headed to Build a Bear with the kids. We let them each pick out a bear to stuff. Caroline was happy with the $10 bear at first, but then she saw the bright pink princess bear and she couldn’t stop squealing. Her daddy just had to get it for her! So sweet!

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They had so much fun stuffing the bears, putting the heart inside, giving them a bath, and naming them. The ever-so-clever Lucas named his bear “Lucas Junior.” Caroline named hers “Pia,” short for Sophia, of course.

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We went to lunch at Olive Garden. And afterwards had some cake complete with another round of “Happy Birthday.” I’d tried my hand at a homemade yellow cake with chocolate icing. The cake and icing were good, but the cake crumbled on me. I’m determined to get this one right, though. I’ll just have to keep trying and trying until it’s perfect. I guess I’ll have to take one for the team with all the taste-testing involved!

After enjoying the crumbly cake, all four of us took a two hour nap. It was perhaps the best part of the day! Ha!

We spent the rest of the day playing with their new bears, building towers out of blocks, and hanging out together. We didn’t do anything spectacular, but it was the most wonderful day.

Over the weekend, Mike and I had the chance to sneak away overnight. We drove down to Nashville on Saturday to see Jimmy Buffett in concert. We stayed at the Opryland Hotel, which was beautiful! This wasn’t technically an anniversary celebration, but since it was a chance to get away just the two of us, we kind of considered it one.

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The day was chilly and rainy so instead of going downtown to hang out where they had a street party going on, we just hung around the hotel. Mike’s brother and his wife and one of Mike’s best childhood friends and his girlfriend were there, too, so it was fun to hang out. We enjoyed a steak dinner at the hotel just before heading down to the concert. Honestly, I enjoyed the low-key day compared to what normally goes along with “tailgaiting” for Buffett, especially being 24 weeks and all.

We love Jimmy Buffett in our house and we always try to go to at least one concert a year. Last year, we were lucky enough to see him in our own city. We prefer to see him in the summer at an outdoor venue, but there was just no way this pregnant lady would be doing that this year! So we compromised with Nashville. The concert was fun, as always, and the adventure we had afterwards wasn’t all that surprising. You can’t go to a Buffett concert and not have drama! This year’s drama involved getting stuck downtown in the pouring rain with no taxi cabs available.

Thankfully, we all made it home in one piece. And that’s all I’m going to say about that…

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Before heading home on Sunday, we spent a little time walking around the hotel and even soaking in some sun at the pool (on the lounge chairs, of course). It was so nice to get away from the everyday ordinary and just be together, even if it was for just barely over 24 hours.

It’s so important to nurture our relationships. It’s important to celebrate the big and small moments that make up our lives. It’s important to get away every now and then. And it’s just as important to spend quality time together at home.

Life happens when we celebrate.

 

Faith and Love in Action

Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. -Romans 12:10

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Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a real blessing. Children a man has when he is young are like arrows in a soldier’s hand. Happy is the man who has many such arrows. He will never be defeated when he meets his enemies in the place of judgment. -Psalm 127:3-5

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Remember these commands and cherish them. Tie them on your arms and wear them on your foreheads as a reminder. Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are away, when you are resting and when you are working. Write them on the doorposts of your houses and on your gates. -Deuteronomy 11:18-20

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For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven;  a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted. -Ecclesiastes 3: 1-2

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Every good gift and every perfect present comes from heaven; it comes down from God, the Creator of the heavenly lights, who does not change or cause darkness by turning. -James 1:17

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And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be thankful. -Colossians 3:15

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Life happens when we put our faith and love in action.

Computer Tales of Woe {Not Real Food Friday}

You guys!?! My computer hates me.

I don’t know what is going on. Admittedly, my mother knows more about computers and technology than I do, but still, something’s amiss here.

I had a very long post about my real food “must haves” that has taken me all week to write. Perhaps this is a sign I should edit it a bit? I mean when my computer will actually let me back on without shutting down every 5 seconds.

Right now, I’m using my sister’s old laptop that is, well, old. I’m very appreciative that she let me borrow it, but I just don’t have the patience to type much more than this post on here.

Anyway, Mike and I have a BIG weekend planned, and I’m giddy with excitement about it. I’m not going to lie, Life Happens When and all my computer woes are going to be taking a backseat.

And on Monday? We celebrate a certain adorable little girl who lives in our house. She’s as sweet as she is surly. She’s as much of a mama’s girl as she is fiercely and (defiantly) independent.

She’s a princess, a girly-girl, a mother hen. And yet, her hair’s always a wild mess, she has bruises on her knees, and she’s as tough as nails.

She worships her big brother and spends all day following right behind him, hanging on and then repeating his every word. She plays cars and trains and ball with him passionately because she loves him so much and wants his attention. She hugs him. She bugs him. She knows just how to get under his skin. But, the instant he asks her to play with him, she swiftly says, “No.”

She’s giggles and tantrums and joy and frustration all rolled into one. A beautiful little mess that I thank God for every single day as I tuck her into bed.

On Monday? My girl turns 2. And we’re having a very special edition of “Monday Family Fun Day” in her very honor. Stay tuned for more on that…

Until then, I’ll be wasting away in non-alcoholic Margaritaville, if that gives you any indication of what the hubby and I are up to this weekend.

I hope you have a lovely weekend, too.

And although this is certainly not the greatest need in the world, could you guys say a little prayer that my computer survives this glitch and all my precious pictures and videos remain intact? Thank you, kindly.

Life happens when we step away from our computers and LIVE!

 

5 Easy Real Food Dinner Ideas

A few weeks ago, I put a call out for dinner ideas because I was in a terrible rut. It’s hard enough to menu plan in the first place, but add in my quest for minimally processed food (that actually tastes good) and I was just plain out of ideas.

I got a couple of great ideas, especially from my friend, Marie (check the comments section of that post for her awesome Chicken, Rice & Veggies Bake). Since then, I’ve added a few new recipes to our repertoire that taste good, are fairly easy, and filled with fresh, real ingredients.

Chicken Piccata with Bow-tie Pasta

When we visited my sister-in-law for Easter, she was so sweet and very conscious of my dietary issues. She’d made a delicious vegetable soup for lunch our first day. For dinner, she made Chicken Piccata. It was so good! I texted her the other day for the recipe because I wanted to give it a try. I believe she originally got the recipe from the Weight Watchers Cookbook called “Take Out Tonight!” I made a few minor adjustments to suit my own taste and to make it even more “real food” friendly. And my family devoured it!

Ingredients:

  • 3 boneless/skinless chicken breasts, sliced in half lengthwise, and pounded thin
  • 1 cup Italian-style bread crumbs (See below for my homemade recipe.)
  • 2 Tablespoons spicy mustard (I bought an organic brand from Fresh Market with as few ingredients as possible.)
  • 1 egg
  • 1-2 Tablespoons olive oil
  • 1/4 cup chicken broth
  • Juice from half a lemon
  • 1/2 Tablespoon parsley flakes

Directions:

  1. Preheat oven to 350.
  2. Mix mustard and egg in a shallow bowl. Place breadcrumbs in a separate shallow bowl.
  3. Heat a large skillet over medium heat. Add olive oil.
  4. Dip the chicken in the mustard/egg mixture, then the breadcrumbs, and place in skillet. Repeat with remaining chicken.
  5. Cook chicken for 3-5 minutes on each side. Transfer to a baking dish.
  6. In the same skillet, add chicken broth and lemon juice and bring to a simmer.
  7. Add parsley and stir to combine.
  8. Pour the sauce over the chicken and bake in the oven for about 10 minutes. The original recipe just calls for cooking it in the skillet, but I like to let it finish in the oven. You could just cook it all in the skillet if you’d prefer!

Bow-tie Pasta (Recipe compliments of my awesome sister-in-law, Shari)

Ingredients:

  • Bow-tie pasta- as much as you need to feed your family (I use a brand that is only one ingredient. I’ll share it with you tomorrow.)
  • 4-5 cloves garlic, roasted
  • 1 Tablespoon olive oil
  • 1/4 cup fresh, shredded parmesan cheese
  • 1/2 teaspoon parsley flakes

Directions:

  1. Cook noodles according to directions. Drain and pour back into pot or transfer to a bowl.
  2. Add roasted garlic, olive oil, cheese, and parsley flakes. Mix together well.

The BEST Homemade Breadcrumbs

DSCN0901Real quick story here. Homemade breadcrumbs are SUPER easy to make. There are lots of variations and I’ve tried them all. Through some trial and error of my own, I found that this recipe makes breadcrumbs that actually look and taste like the ones from the store. It’s an extra step or two, but worth it in my opinion.

Ingredients:

  • 5-6 pieces homemade or bakery fresh bread (definitely don’t want the store bought variety)

Directions:

  1. Leave bread pieces out on a cookie sheet to get stale. I line my cookie sheet with parchment paper first. I usually let the bread sit out for about an hour, but you could leave it out all day if you wanted.
  2. Preheat oven to 300.
  3. Tear bread into smaller pieces and grind in a food processor.
  4. Place bread crumbs back on the cookie sheet (and parchment paper).
  5. Bake crumbs for about 30 minutes (until they are crisp, but not burnt). I try to stir the crumbs around once or twice while they are baking.
  6. Remove from oven and let cool.
  7. Place crumbs back in the food processor and grind again.
  8. Store in an air-tight container in the freezer for about a week.

*For Italian-style breadcrumbs, mix about 1/2 Tablespoon of Italian seasoning to 1 cup crumbs (more or less to your own preference).

Here are a few of my new favorite recipes found around the Internet. 

Creamed Chicken (Click the link to the recipe at Kitchen Stewardship.)

This went over really well and called for very few ingredients. We opted out of all the fresh vegetables because I don’t think I could have gotten my husband to eat it otherwise. It was still delicious, but I am curious how it would taste with the green peppers! I served it over brown rice.

Oven Baked Chicken (Click link to recipe.)

I found this recipe at a cute website called “Mother Thyme.” I’m no stranger to oven baked chicken, but this recipe was different because it used paprika. That kicked it up a notch and everyone went back for seconds. My picky husband loved it, actually! Of course, I used homemade breadcrumbs.

Italian Pot Pie (Click link for recipe.)

I found this recipe while searching through my sister’s binder of recipes. It came from an issue of Martha Stewart’s Everyday Food. My sister’s notes at the top said, “Quick, easy, everyone loved.” If she can get everyone in her brood to like a dish, I’m willing to give it a try at our house, too! The result? Every last drop was gobbled up. My sweet little Caroline usually only devours the meat on her plate when it’s free of sauce, but she cleaned her plate and said, “Mmm” the whole way through. Bonus? This also has vegetables in it, which my family didn’t realize because they were diced small and were tender!

Ham and Beans in the Crockpot (Click link for recipe.)

This dish is ridiculously easy to make and just oozes of comfort food. It happens to be one of my favorite to make. It definitely needs to be jazzed up with some seasonings of your preference. I usually add garlic powder. Mike doesn’t love this, but I usually add some broth (besides the water it calls for) to it to give it more of a “soup” feel and he’s much more on board. I also throw in some diced carrots. Caroline LOVES it. She goes around these days saying, “Mmm. Beans.”

I hope these recipes give you some ideas for quick, real food dinners, and I hope you and your family enjoy them as much as we have!

What’s your favorite “go to” dinner?

Life happens when we menu plan.

*Today’s post is linked up to Five Favorites over at Moxie Wife!

Ain’t Nobody Got Time For That…

Every time I get the hair-brained idea to make a new recipe from scratch, I’m always really excited about it at first.

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Lately, my kitchen has been an eruption of flour, sugar, yeast, cocoa, vanilla, and all kinds of other sugary, not exactly “real food,” but still from scratch goodness. My countertops have also been covered with fresh fruits and vegetables, various herbs and spices, and locally raised, grass-fed ground beef. Organic chicken. Farm fresh eggs.

Coconut oil. Almond oil. Olive oil.

Vinegar of many different varieties including white, balsamic, apple cider, and white wine.

And gelatin. For homemade marshmallows, of course.

It’s usually about halfway through one of my adventures (or really, misadventures) that I stop and think to myself, “Ain’t nobody got time for that.”

Two hours into a homemade loaf of bread, my mind starts racing with all the better ways I could have spent that time.

After cleaning up the kitchen for the fifth time that day, I start feeling just a little bitter about my new lifestyle.

As I bandage up another sliced finger or tend to another burn to my skin (or tongue), I start thinking that cooking isn’t for me.

As I bite into a highly anticipated homemade meal only to be thoroughly disappointed, I’m ready to call the whole thing off.

But, I won’t do it. It’s become far too important to me. And it’s totally worth it to know I’m providing my family with safe, wholesome, real meals (and treats).

I was never taught how to do anything productive in the kitchen and it’s taken me nearly 31 years to realize just how important this particular set of life skills is. In this fast-paced world we live in, we’ve spiraled into a place where we equate value with how fast and cheap we can come by things. But, cooking meals and treats from scratch provides my family nourishment and enjoyment in a way that fast food and frozen meals can’t.

It’s not easy with my littles constantly underfoot. It’s not easy with my husband’s work schedule. It’s definitely not easy with my complete lack of talent when it comes to cooking and baking. But it’s worth it to me. (Lest you start thinking I’ve got it all figured out, remember we still eat out and we still eat processed foods some of the time. Moderation, right?)

What I’ve come to learn is that it’s okay that over half my cooking attempts end up in failure because some of them have been successes! In fact, my husband recently complimented me on several of the meals that have made it to our dinner table (and he wasn’t even referring to my Homemade Hamburger Helper!).

It’s okay that I rely on other people’s recipes. Where else am I going to learn? And I’ve learned a lot!

It’s okay that it takes a little longer to make an entire meal from fresh ingredients. It’s even okay that I have to spend a little more money on those ingredients (we certainly save it by not eating out as much).

Eating food that has been minimally processed has become my life’s mission for myself and my family.

I definitely have time for that.

Your mission in life may not have anything to do with food, but surely there’s something you value above everything else. Are you making the time for it? Or are you making excuses? Are you guilty of saying, “Ain’t nobody got time for that?”

Make today the day you reset your priorities.

Life happens when we make time for what’s important to us.

Forget Perfect

I’ve mentioned before that I have high expectations for myself. I often expect perfection.

I expect it in myself, but also in the world around me.

This past Easter, I got it in my head that I wanted the “perfect” family photo. We were all dressed up in our Easter best and I wanted to preserve the moment.

But, the wind was blowing fiercely.

Caroline didn’t want anything to do with anyone that wasn’t her Grammy.

Lucas was too giddy with excitement to be at his cousin Jacob’s house. The last thing he wanted was to be stuck taking pictures.

My hair had a mind of its own. Nearly a year later, it’s still recovering from the torture I put it through.

After about 2 dozen clicks of the camera, my hormones and my emotions got the better of me. I may have thrown a little tantrum.

THIS was all we could come up with:

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Exasperated, I gave up. But not before making a fool of myself and pouting.

It didn’t take me long to realize how silly the whole thing was. Really? We had traveled to be with family that we don’t get to see nearly enough. We were celebrating Easter, the very reason we even have LIFE. The kids had even miraculously behaved at church. We were about to have an egg hunt and dinner together before heading back home.

So what? My family didn’t cooperate for a picture. Big deal. That’s life.

A few weekends ago, I decided to have a small family dinner to celebrate Caroline’s birthday. Her birthday is officially on the 29th, but between Mike’s schedule and some things we already had planned, that was the only free weekend. I decided to forgo a big party and just have Caroline’s grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins who are here in town over for dinner. Including our little family, that was a grand total of 16 people.

I was so excited to have a smaller party because I was actually able to stick to my “real food” mission a little better than if we’d had a bigger one. I made homemade meatballs and spaghetti. I served it with a fresh salad, fruit, and dinner rolls from scratch.

I had it in my head that we would all sit down together and have a nice, warm, happy dinner in honor of my baby girl. It was going to be perfect. Idyllic. Old-fashioned.

Except the day was beautiful and I could hardly keep everyone inside.

And some of our guests couldn’t make it right on time.

And everyone scattered to different locations to eat.

It was chaotic and loud. Everyone was laughing and chatting and having a grand old time.

Everyone except me. I stood in the kitchen, pouting and making some more spaghetti noodles.

As I stirred the pot, it dawned on me how silly I was being.

So, the family dinner didn’t live up to the one I’d planned in my head? Everyone seemed to be enjoying themselves. Everyone was impressed that I’d made most everything from scratch. Everyone kissed and loved and squeezed on the very happy birthday girl.

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It was a beautiful day filled with family. It was as close to perfect as we’ll ever get.

I’m not exactly proud of my own personal behavior at these two events, but I’m glad they happened just as they did. I came to a very important realization.

Perfect is good and all, but it doesn’t actually exist.

Real life is messy. It’s loud. It never goes as planned. There’s always someone who’s running late or won’t cooperate. Someone’s bound to be tired and cranky. There’s back-up plans that must be executed and unpredictable weather. But there’s still something pretty beautiful about that.

Rather than focus on what’s wrong with the picture or how something should’ve been, we must refocus our energy on all that’s right. All that’s beautiful and lovely. We must embrace life as it is, not as we wish it could be. That’s the sure-fire ticket to happiness.

Life happens when we forget perfect. 

Love Our Earth

Happy Earth Day, friends!

First, I have to start off by making a confession. I’ve never really “celebrated” Earth Day before. Of course, I love our planet and I want to make smart choices to preserve its natural beauty and protect it from harm, but for some reason the actual day always slips my mind. And to be totally honest, the entire premise of Earth Day sometimes slips my mind on a daily basis.

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A funny thing happened, though. I’ve been on this crazy crash-course into real/clean/whole eating. While the bulk of the knowledge I’ve gained is about food, it’s hard to ignore environmental issues when looking at food and where it comes from.

That’s why this year, I’m more committed than ever to preserving, loving, and respecting this beautiful planet. While these aren’t revolutionary ideas, I do hope they inspire you to give Planet Earth some love it so desperately needs and definitely deserves.

Plant a tree and/or a garden.

We recently did some landscaping in our backyard. In addition to some beautiful shrubs, plants, and trees that will hopefully give us some privacy, we also planted two bigger trees (one if the front yard and one in the back). I am so excited to watch them grow.

In addition to all the environmental reasons for planting trees, I’m also eager to start a “picture taking” tradition like my friend Tracie has with her kids. How neat is that!?! Watch the kids and the tree grow through the years.

As for a garden, I was originally “gung ho” about one. Then, I remembered we have a huge open field behind our house. The deer already love our new landscaping, I can only imagine what they’d do with my garden. I have big plans for one in the future, though.

Until then, I’m planting some tomatoes and peppers in pots on my deck!

Reusable Napkins

My friend, Marie, mentioned this on her blog a few weeks ago. I am terrible about napkins and paper towels. I use them so mindlessly, and it is a very hard habit to break. I used a few coupons at Bed Bath & Beyond to get some reusable napkins. It’s been a slow transition, but we are working on it!

If you’re like my family, just using these once a day will significantly reduce the waste in your home.

Now, if I can just remember to pull them out of the drawer at dinnertime!

Buy Local

There are lots of ways to buy local, but especially with food, we are heading into a great season for buying local. Farmer’s Markets are slowly starting up again!

Buying local not only supports our local economy, it also conserves energy and reduces material waste. When it comes to produce and meat, local farmers tend to be more humane in how they treat their animals and better stewards of the land where they grow their crops.

Be Mindful of Waste 

Recently, I read a quote from Mother Teresa.

“When I see waste here, I feel angry on the inside. I don’t approve of myself getting angry. But it’s something you can’t help after seeing Ethiopia.”

I have always loved Mother Teresa. Even though I obviously never knew her personally, I think of how disappointed she must be with me. I am such a wasteful person. I don’t intend to be, but I am.

Every time I go to throw something away these days, I stop myself. Is there any way I can use this again? Is there someone else who might want this?

I’ve also gotten very conscious about the food I throw away. I personally hate leftovers. To combat this, I’ve been making our meals in smaller portions than normal. But when there are leftovers, I make a point to save them and make sure they are eaten.

Think Before Making a Purchase.

We live in a culture that consumes way more than its fair share. We have too much stuff. And most of that stuff ends up getting thrown away.

What doesn’t get thrown out ends up taking up space and causing clutter. I never intend to get things I don’t need and I certainly don’t intend to have clutter. Yet, here I am, living in a house filled with stuff. It’s suffocating.

What I try to do these days is think long and hard before making a purchase. If possible, I wait and come back to it. More times than not, I realize I didn’t need it in the first place.

I’ve also gotten very adamant about making a list and sticking to it. If it’s not on the list, I can’t get it.

Reuse Bags

There’s one benefit to doing more shopping at health food stores: paper bags. When I used to only shop at the local grocery store, I’d come home week after week with dozens of plastic bags. We save them and use them for various things around the house, but it’s still an absurd amount of plastic. 

I have a couple of reusable bags, but for some reason I can’t seem to get in the habit of bringing them with me to the store.

This is an area I really want to grow in over the next year. Even if you don’t have actual reusable bags, you can always bring your own paper bags back to the store with you. Whole Foods even gives a small discount if you do that! 

Reuse, Recycle, Donate, Borrow, Buy Second Hand

I think these are all pretty self-explanatory, but sometimes we forget that so much of what we have could really bless someone else.

One thing I like to do is “go shopping” in my own basement or better yet, my sister’s! Before buying something new, check in with a friend or a consignment shop. You’ll save money and the environment!

I’m not an avid recycler (though it is a new priority for me), but I’ve always graciously accepted hand-me-downs from generous family and friends. My children have been almost entirely clothed in hand-me-downs from their cousins. And it doesn’t bother me in the least.

I’ve also reused/borrowed old comforters and bedding sets, furniture, toys, and many other trinkets. One sister’s trash is another sister’s treasure!

Unplug

Whether it’s keeping the lights off, unplugging electronics when not in use, or programing the thermostat, every little bit helps!

Get Out and Enjoy Nature!

This is perhaps one of the easiest and cheapest ways to love the Earth. Get out and enjoy all the beauty. My family is incredibly blessed to have a lakehouse where we spend the majority of our summers (and a great deal of time year round). There’s something majestic about the beautiful woods and the sun hitting the lake just perfectly.

There are hundreds of ways to enjoy and explore nature, though! Our city is currently undergoing a huge parks and recreation project and my family will certainly reap the benefits of one of the newest parks, which is less than five minutes from our house. There are hiking trails, a bike/walk/run path, and a beautiful playground that includes a splash area in the summer. We’ll definitely be spending time there.

And there’s plenty to do in our own backyard. We are even blessed with a beautiful view of the stars at night. The sky’s the limit when it comes to enjoying nature!

What’s your favorite way to celebrate and preserve our planet?

Life happens when we love the Earth!

5 Food Additives I Avoid {Real Food Friday}

I’ve been cooking up a storm at Casa de Life Happens When! I’m very excited to share some new recipes with you soon.

In the mean time, I thought I’d share with you some of the top additives I avoid when purchasing food.

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Just to recap, I am now in the habit of buying foods that have 10 ingredients or less, though I have been able to reduce that to 5 ingredients or less the majority of the time. I aim to buy fresh, whole foods. Typically, if there is an ingredient in a product that I can’t pronounce or can’t decipher what it is, I no longer buy it.

After over 7 months of research and scrutinizing labels, I can figure out within just a few seconds whether an ingredient falls into the “not really harmful,” “mildly harmful” or “no way am I putting this in my body or my family’s” category.

We tend to follow the 80/20 rule in our home. That means 80% of the time, we eat wholesome, real, minimally processed (if at all) foods. The other 20% of the time, we either eat out or eat foods that contain more processed ingredients than I’d like. At this point in time, it’s the most realistic for us.

I’m pretty strict these days, but there are certainly people out there who are stricter than I’ll ever be. When I first started, I simply found some of the worst additives and chose to weed them out first.

If you are at the early stages of a “real food” journey, this post is for you. I thought I’d share the top additives I always avoid (whenever humanly possibly) and why.

MSG

Monosodium Glutamate (MSG) is an additive that is used to add flavor to food. It is recognized as safe by the FDA, which is why it can be found in nearly every processed food including soups, salad dressings, processed meats, and frozen dinners. Although it’s considered “safe,” it has been linked to numerous disorders and diseases including chronic headaches, fatigue, obesity, depression, Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s. It has even been linked to learning disorders and disabilities.

Many people have an intolerance to MSG and don’t even realize it. The side effects are fairly minor, but include headaches, upset stomach, diarrhea, and/or vomiting.

My greatest concern about MSG is the fact that there are dozens of alternate names for it hidden within the ingredients of our food. For a detailed list, click here.

Takeaway: MSG is probably not overly harmful if consumed in great moderation. It’s nearly impossible to avoid MSG at all times, and I know I’ve consumed it both intentionally and unintentionally over the past 7 months. Avoiding canned soups and frozen dinners would be a great place to start! Also, familiarize yourself with some of the other names for MSG. That was both eye opening and disheartening for me. Good-bye, Panera bagels I loved oh so much!

Artificial Food Dyes/Colors

Artificial food coloring is used to add color to food (obviously). Again, the FDA actually approves these dyes, which is why they are in our food. They don’t add any nutritional value, just make our food pretty to eat. They can be found in many soft drinks, macaroni and cheese, cookies, icing, yogurt, and even pickles. Yes, pickles.

Unfortunately, artificial food dyes have been linked to numerous health issues ranging from hyperactivity in children to cancer.

Recently, I learned that foods sold in the United Kingdom containing artificial dyes must have a warning label. Also, major food brand companies, including Kraft, have created comparable and affordable alternative products for other countries that do not contain artificial dyes, but have not done the same for the United States. I can’t begin to tell you how angry this makes me.

Did you hear about the petition that Lisa from 100 Days of Real Food and Vani from Food Babe created to ask Kraft to remove artificial dyes from their Macaroni and Cheese? Over 270,000 people (myself included) signed the petition, but Kraft refused to listen. Or they made up some ridiculous story about how they were “listening” to the millions of customers who buy their products. It all comes down to the money in their pocket. And I can assure you, I will go out of my way to never intentionally put money in their wallet again (and they own a lot).

A very informative post with additional links about artificial food dyes can be found over at 100 Days of Real Food.

Takeaway: Artificial food dyes should be avoided as often as possible. Following the 80/20 rule, however, gives a little bit of leeway to enjoy the occasional snack or treat that contains artificial colors.

High Fructose Corn Syrup

A few years ago, I remember watching a commercial trying to convince consumers that HFCS was “natural” and no different than sugar. I sort of bought into it at the time. And in a way, the marketers were right. HFCS does derive naturally and mimics table sugar, but it is still an additive used far too often to sweeten our foods. And it is highly processed, even more so than regular sugar (which is also processed, unfortunately).

High Fructose Corn Syrup is considered “generally safe” by the FDA, but has been linked to numerous health issues, including obesity.

My greatest concern with HFCS is the fact that it is in EVERYTHING! It’s in ketchup and cereal and soft drinks and candy. It’s even in bread! Not all that long ago, people survived just fine without HFCS. Why does it suddenly need to be in pretty much every processed food out there?

Takeaway: High Fructose Corn Syrup should be avoided as a general rule, especially if it is listed as one of the first few ingredients. But here’s the thing: HFCS is only slightly worse than granulated (table) sugar, which is highly processed, as well. Sugar should really be avoided as a general rule, as well. Stinks, doesn’t it? Moderation. There’s that word again, but it’s true. Though when it comes to HFCS, the less, the better.

Artificial Sweeteners

Speaking of sweets, I also avoid artificial sweeteners. The most common one is Aspartame and can be found in diet soft drinks, “sugar free” products, yogurt, desserts, flavored waters, and, of course, packets of Equal or Nutrasweet.

Aspartame has been linked to a wide variety of health issues from headaches and dizziness to nausea and seizures. Of greatest concern is the fact that Aspartame has been linked to cancer, though the FDA approves it as safe and research isn’t totally clear.

Takeaway: Give up those diet soft drinks! Come on! You can DO it!

BHT

Butylated hydrozyttoluene is an additive found most often in cereals. It is used to preserve the freshness of such products.

Food for thought: BHT is also used as a stabilizer for pesticides, gasolines, lubricants, and soaps. Yum! How about that with a side of Cinnamon Toast Crunch?

There doesn’t seem to be a great deal of information about the side effects of BHT other than studies of liver & kidney failure and cancer in rats. But if all that happens to a rat, do we even want to know what it will do to a human? It has been banned from baby cereal because it has been linked to hyperactivity in children. Oh yeah- it’s also banned in England. What is going on, America?!?!

Takeaway: Use with discretion. As for me and my house, we’ll be buying cereals without BHT. And we prefer oatmeal, anyway.

Oh and just for fun, my research on BHT and other preservatives reminded me of this dialogue from “National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation.” Funny, yes! Disturbing? You betcha. You know there’s somebody out there saying this about the additive they’re working on!

Bill: “What’s that new thing you got over there at food and drug?”
Clark: “Oh the Crunch enhancer? Yeah it’s a non-nutritive cereal varnish. It’s semi-permiable. It’s not osmotic. What it does is it coats and seals the flake, prevents the milk from penetrating it.”
Bill: “Yeah it’s a beautiful product.”
Clark: “Yeah I like it.”

Hopefully this gives you a good place to start. I’ll admit that it’s challenging, overwhelming, and just plain hard to take the first step into the “real food” world.

To quote my 12 year old nephew, “Man, we can’t eat anything!”

But, really, once you get past the fact that pretty much everything in a box, package, or bag has not so great ingredients in it, you start to realize there are lots of actual foods out there that are wholesome, delicious, and healthy.

Before you know it, you’ll be whipping up meals from scratch, buying organic, and spouting off a list of questionable ingredients to relatives, friends, and anyone who will listen.

Any questions?

For all my veteran “real food” friends, what other additives do you avoid?

Life happens when we eat real food. 

Prayer for the Weary

Sometimes my prayers come easily and naturally. It’s comforting to kiss my little ones, tuck them into bed, and offer a prayer while standing over them in their darkened room.

It’s easy to pray for my husband, our family, and our friends.

It’s easy to pray for the special intentions of others and for the world.

I read several different devotions each day. I try to read the Bible each day, as well.

Still, I feel like my prayers are so inadequate. I feel lost, unsure of what to say. I complicate things because I try to formulate the “perfect” prayer. And sometimes, I’m just too weary to say anything at all. The day usually wipes me out and before I know it, I’m sound asleep in bed.

During Lent, one of my goals was to read the Gospel of Mark in 40 days. I actually read it faster than that. It was a short, quick, familiar read.

I enjoyed the experience so much, I challenged myself to read each Gospel all the way through over the next few months. Sometimes I’m guilty of just flipping through until I find a passage or two that I like, but reading Mark from start to finish helped me rediscover forgotten stories and helped me get back in the habit of actually reading from the Bible daily (rather than just a quick verse or two or the daily readings).

Right now, I’m reading through Matthew. The other night, I was feeling drained from another long day. I wanted to turn out the lights and go to sleep, but I knew I really needed to read from Matthew, at least for a few minutes. Part of what I read that night was Matthew 6: 7-13. It spoke to me so much and put my heart at such ease.

“When you pray, do not use a lot of meaningless words, as the pagans do, who think that their gods will hear them because their prayers are long.  Do not be like them. Your Father already knows what you need before you ask him. This, then, is how you should pray:

‘Our Father in heaven:
    May your holy name be honored;
may your Kingdom come;
    may your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us today the food we need.
Forgive us the wrongs we have done,
    as we forgive the wrongs that others have done to us.
Do not bring us to hard testing,
    but keep us safe from the Evil One.’

The Lord’s Prayer- The Our Father. It’s simple. Familiar. Comforting.

Of course, we MUST build a relationship with God. We must form a friendship with Christ. We must go to church, serve the Lord, follow His will for us. And we must pray.

But sometimes we are weak and weary. Sometimes we are angry and broken. Sometimes we are lost.

God already knows what’s in our hearts. He knows what we need and He knows what we want. He’s not asking for a longwinded speech. He only wants some time with us.

So on those days when you can’t find the words, know that you don’t need to. Offer up a simple memorized prayer to the Lord. Or sit in prayerful silence. He’ll hear you just the same. And He’ll appreciate that you made the effort to talk to Him.

Life happens when we pray. 

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