My husband made an interesting remark to me recently. It caught me off guard and then put me on guard. I don’t remember his exact words anymore, but I most definitely misconstrued what he said.
In a nutshell, he told me that I needed to take care of myself. He didn’t say it to be mean, which is how I initially took it. After stewing about it for awhile (without even discussing his meaning or motive with him), I came to realize that his words had good intentions.
I’ve sort of let myself go. I’m not really sure why, but I have. This summer, I had grand notions to lose the last 10 pounds of baby weight from Caroline. I even planned to take it a step further and lose 5 more pounds to get me to the weight I was before I got pregnant with Lucas.
Ha! All those good intentions were swept away by a gross amount of overindulgence. I flirted with gluttony all summer long. And while it was sweet (oh! how it was sweet!), I’ve paid the price. Pants that I wore immediately after giving birth to Caroline are snug. Seriously!?! How does that even happen?
I also did a number on my hair. You know how I dyed my hair gray? Well, to get it back to a somewhat bearable color, I had to recolor over it. When I re-colored it, my hair was jet black. Think Morticia Addams, but blacker. This color not only scared the living daylights out of me, it terrified my kids. To get the jet black out of my hair, I had to strip the color and then dye it again. I did all of this in a 24 hour period. Not so bright.
To tell you that my hair feels like hay is being generous. In reality, it is even dryer than that. My hair is a hot mess. I can’t do anything with it, so I keep pulling it in a ponytail, which isn’t helping matters. This has worked wonders for my self esteem, let me tell you.
I keep focussing on all the ways I’m unhappy with myself. Rather than making changes, I keep spiraling downhill. Eat another cookie? Why not? My thighs are already huge! Go to bed without brushing my teeth? Who cares? I’m too tired to spend two more minutes standing upright. Get dressed today? Why bother? We’re stuck inside because it’s too hot and if we leave the house I’ll just spend money we don’t have.
I have chipped nail polish on my toes. I have random dry patches on my hands, face, and arms. I have hangnails. And I don’t even care!
Clearly, I need to take better care of myself.
Have you ever done this to yourself? Maybe you’ve gotten really busy with a job or with tending to little ones all day. Maybe you have older ones and you only have time to taxi them around. Maybe you’re discouraged about yourself and you don’t know where to start. Maybe laziness keeps getting in the way.
Whatever our reasons, we must take care of ourselves! We must find the time to nurture and care for our bodies. We deserve to be healthy. We deserve to look and feel our best.
Whether it means getting up early to workout or going to bed early to get more sleep, we need to force ourselves to do it. Put that cookie down. Go for a walk outside. Find a conditioner that works (any suggestions?). Moisturize. Floss. Get dressed. For goodness sake, go get a pedicure!
Above all, it is important that we do something. If we don’t make even a small step in the right direction, things will only pile up and get worse. We don’t have to get wrapped up in society’s version of beautiful, but we do need to put our best foot (and face and hair) forward.
What’s one thing you’ll do to better yourself today?
Life happens when we take care of ourselves.
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